No one is perfect, most of us know. There comes a time in each of our lives when you say something that may not be appropriate. Some may immediately notice their slip of the tongue and offer an apology while others are clueless of what just came out of their mouths. If you’re wondering what types of hurtful comments that you could be saying without noticing, then let me give you some examples of some obnoxious things you never should say that are offensive.
If you want not to be on the wrong side of your family, new love interest, friends, co-workers and the boss, then you will exert more care to think first before speaking and take these obnoxious things to heart.
When are you due?
Have you ever jumped to the wrong conclusion when you noticed someone that you haven’t seen for a long time is suddenly carrying a lot more weight and wearing what looked like maternity clothes? Maybe you just assumed she was pregnant and asked when the baby was due. Never assume a woman that may have had a perfect body in the past still has the same body. She can just gain weight. Keep your opinions about her former body to yourself unless you want to be totally humiliated.
How much money do you make?
This is a question that is no one’s business but your own. Asking someone how much money they make is off limits and rude. Co-workers can become jealous and toxic. Employers can get angry. Sharing this information with your immediate family is one thing, but this type of question is too personal for others that are just nosey or attempting to determine your potential as a future mate for earning power to see if you are worth their time to date. I say if you go on a date and are ever asked how much do you earn, then run like the hills because the person that asked this question is only interested in money and not you.
What’s your problem?
Then again, some people are too thick in the head to notice what hurtful offensive comments were just said. Instead, they attempt to turn the comments around like it was you that can’t see the logic in what was just relayed. They can say, “what’s your problem?” to make an excuse for it.
It must be your time of the month.
As a woman, you may have heard that you’re only reacting to those offensive comments because it’s your time of the month due to wacky female hormones. This is just a stereotype some men assign to women just because it provides a convenient excuse for their rudeness.
How would you know being only . . . a mall worker . . . retired . . . housewife, etc.?
You meet all kinds of people. Some may have the audacity to prejudge another due to their occupation instead of logic. For instance, you may be called for jury duty. You also may be assigned a case. Yet, when it is time to come up with a vote or considered for the foreman role, then you may be asked what you do. If so, a bold, inconsiderate person that may have a better job could try to diminish your mental capability of voicing an opinion.
You still live at home with your parents?
You hear how great the economy is. If so, why are there so many food banks, turkey drives, clothing drives, etc. Many young people can’t get a job to afford their own place or lose their jobs and come home to live with their parents. In some cases, children live at home to help their parents take care of the house. Some people like to belittle those living at home with your parents when it’s really none of their business.
Only an idiot would say that . . .
How dare some people demean the mentally disabled by criticizing when sharing an opinion? Conjuring up this excuse for an offensive remark is another of those obnoxious things that hurt. Those that need to always employ that phrase need to read more about IQ basics. Expressing how you feel about the comment is your right. Someone that intrudes upon that is insensitive and lacking in polite behavior.
These are just a few obnoxious things that you may not realize that you share out loud. My motto is to think before you speak. If so, you’ll attract kindness and win more favor with others.